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What You Should Do on Your Last Day of Detox

Do you ever sit back and think about just how enormous this planet actually is? Even as over populated as it is with polar ice caps melting and space beginning to dwindle like the last few crumbs in your bag of chips, there is still so much uncharted terrain out there waiting to be discovered. The human population has only explored a tiny fraction of our oceans and the universe we reside in- it’s astounding! This delivers us to our next question. With all these possibilities of places to go and people to see out there, why the hell do addicts choose to drool in their lap on a couch in their living room? Or why do alcoholics choose to spend hour after hour drinking in a dimly lit bar they’ve stepped foot into more times than they can count? Plain and simple- it’s just part of who we are.

Addicts and alcoholics are the broken record players of human beings and will do the same ignorant irrational things over and over without thinking twice about it. We take drug usage and imbibing to a whole new level as we delve into unmanageability, powerlessness, and destroying everything that blooms around us. The cursed disease of chemical dependency puts people prematurely in the ground every day, but if somehow the planets line up in their favor, that person may make it to jail or some institution or another. Having a time out from our drinking and using is one of the largest blessings in disguise that an addict or alcoholic can receive. It gives us an opportunity to start over. After all, there is a first and last for everything. With the last drink behind us and the last day of detox beside us, the first day of recovery is right ahead.

Laying Down the Foundation to Your Empire

If by some chance we have not used up all 9 of our lives and actually made it into a facility of sorts, this is where miracles are born. First of all, it’s easy to make it through the first and last day of detox. There will be some slight discomfort of course, but wading those waters and actually making it to the other side is the best distress we can create for ourselves. As addicts and alcoholics, we are some of the best excuse makers out there. We tend to constantly manufacture this idea of being frightened to detoxify and enter sobriety. There’s always a reason not to. The more terrifying thought is having a body that is physically dependent on something where you can’t be yourself without it. Slavery if you will.  As you may know, this is not natural, though. The human body is an adaptive creature and ends up becoming accustomed to the poison being thrown inside of it daily. That being said, it’s imperative to remember that we have to take this sobriety thing serious to not repeat ourselves. The last day of detox is the day to get all your ducks in a row and prepare for the long but easy journey at hand. There are questions to be asked and things to be situated. Making sure there is a safe sober accommodating place to discharge to is of utter importance. Home life needs to remain comfortable because remember- you DON’T want to go through this again.

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Many of us used our smorgasbord of chemicals because we wanted to feel comfortably numb and avoid life in itself. Sure it starts with having some fun with friends, but 9 times out of 10- the ending is not fun. The ending is what brings us to the last day of detox planning carefully how we are going to deal with our emotions and problems to come down the road.  In a lot of cases, many addicts and alcoholics have repressed psychological issues to deal with or they just feel poorly overall of the life they’ve manifested before them. Self-esteem takes a large hit when we feel worthless from our versed ways of getting high and drunk.

It’s recommended for many, depending on finances of course, to look into seeing a therapist or psychologist of some sort. Hold the phone; first of all, this does not make you “crazy” in the slightest for those that may be skeptical. At the end of the day, none of us have this life thing figured out. Any of us sitting there on our last day of detox have no clue what the future has in store. So having somebody to bounce ideas off of and just discuss rational conversation with can be a godsend. Regardless, whether money is tight or not, the additional recommendation/option is finding a sponsor in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. This is somebody that helps take you through the 12 steps and show you what to do to essentially live your life like a normal person who doesn’t have stab wounds on their arms or alcoholic shakes when nobody’s looking. I hope that on the last day of detox it has become apparent that I, you, and we- all need help in this life just to get by.

Again, creating a general game plan that is conducive to your recovery and preparing for what’s ahead is the absolute best thing you can do on your last day of detox. Making phone calls and getting connected to sober supports is golden. Very much of the time when we’re getting loaded, we see things in a different light than somebody with a clearer mind. Distorted reality is literally underselling that one. We find that upon getting clean, our definitions of love and friendship change dramatically. We find that having sober bonds with people set us up for more success and happiness than the previous ones we indulged so much time into. If we want it to be, the last day of detox is only the beginning.

What You Should Do Your First Day of Detox

Having come to the conclusion that we are in over our heads with our usage, we turn to the days leading up to the last day of detox. Addiction and alcoholism are not to be toyed around with. It’s all fun and games until you decide you hate the idea of waking up every day. Making a phone call or doing something proactive is a step in the right direction. There are many different types of programs out there to make you feel right at home. Unfortunately, some addictions require a little medical assistance before action can be taken. If you or a loved one has been struggling, please call1-866-802-6848 or visit Our trained specialists are on standby ready to help you start detoxing comfortably as we guide your life in a direction you can proudly stand behind.

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5 Ways Addicts Play the Victim Role

One of mankind’s largest mistakes is their ability or inability to shut their mouths. Most human beings love to talk and talk as they subconsciously become infatuated over the sound of their own voice. Really, think about it. A large percentage of the time when in conversation, a great handful of people can be lobbed in a category where they are so self-involved that they aren’t listening to a thing being spoken in said conversation. They’re nodding their head and seemingly there, but in all actuality, they are just planning what they are going to say next and could care less about the words dribbling out of your mouth. Personally, I believe that when we are so self-absorbed to this point, it’s easier for us to point fault at others and play the victim role in all the situations that come our way.

One of the most brilliant quotes I stumbled upon in regards to playing the victim role was, “Some people create their own storms, and then get upset when it rains.” This quote couldn’t be any more pertinent to life and the outlook that so many of us start to fixate on. It’s extremely cynical.  In this life of known unknowns and unknown knowns, it’s much easier for us to take a pessimistic approach on things and become surprised if misfortune doesn’t occur- rather than to maintain optimism and be constantly let down in our struggles for life and energy. Thus, through the toils and troubles heaved our way, we become experts in playing the victim role. This mindset is often fruitless, but naturally, addicts and alcoholics take it and turn it into their own version of bull-headed victimization.

Lethal Finger Pointing

As addicts and alcoholics, it’s our natural instinct to justify our chemical dependency and blame others in life as we fall “helplessly” into the victim role.  The amount of complaining that builds up could fill a novel within minutes. As our alcoholic thinking begins to take over and life’s misfortunes are delivered to our feet, we can’t help but bitch and moan about it. It’s so much easier to talk about the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve’s than it is to actually look at the problem at hand and try to change something about it. Why in the world would we want to tire ourselves out and put effort into changing the things that are bothering us? No no no, we would rather dive further into the victim role and carry on in the mindset that the world is out to get us and that unfortunate things only occur in our lives. This is another way that most addicts and alcoholics shift the faults of their lives onto something or somebody else. When we’re so caught up in our usage, it’s hard for us to see that we are the product of our own actions. We start developing this victim role mindset as if there is some force or entity out there that is trying to prevent us from the delinquency and debauchery we so crave to partake in.

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Through this, we start perceiving the world as though we are just a pawn in this game. We have to endure and suffer in life because of the choices made by others. Why is there nothing we can do about all these terrible things occurring in our lives? The infamous mindset of being powerless begins to take hold here. By playing the victim role, we are basically handing over our choice of mental freedom and accepting that life has some cruel fate for us that is out of our hands. Addiction and alcoholism take us to the outer edge of insanity where we begin feeling as a prisoner to the substances and that life is completely unfair. In other words, the pilot has now lost control of the flight and we are zooming into oblivion.

As we continue sitting in our throned victim role and feeling sorry for ourselves, our whole attitude and outlook upon life changes completely- but not in the good way that Alcoholics Anonymous promises upon entering recovery. Our whole outlook upon life changes in negatives manners filled with anger and fear. Hostility and passive aggressive behavior are common signs that the addict is becoming defensive. Maybe it’s not correlated to whatever particular situation is at hand, but the defense will be out of instinct from playing the victim role. The addict will indirectly be on guard against life as an expression of their victimization and will be ready to recoil against anything or anybody they feel is threatening their use or way of life. It’s not that addicts are angry people, but that resentment and frustration are building up and becoming harder to ignore.

Once immersed fully into the victim role, most addicts and alcoholics will resemble only that of self-pity in its truest form and will be actively looking for people to feel sorry for them. We are known to dive so far into the victim role that we will do anything we can to avoid ourselves and have somebody cry the tears for us that we are no longer able to cry for ourselves. Addicts and alcoholics will make it a point to put our misery and self-doubt right out on the table so that everybody has to tip toe around us. It gets to a point where we become so caught up in talking about ourselves and how unfair life is that nobody in their right mind really wants to listen. Playing the victim role is a form of self-sabotage that exaggerates the ugly beauty life has in store for all of us. Don’t be the little piggy that cries “wee wee wee” all the way home. You’re entitled to your roast beef too.

Group Therapy Can Help

For this reason, sometimes loved ones can get confused. When we play the victim card, or our loved one who is struggling with an addiction does, it can be extremely easy to sway the people who care about us. Many loved ones do not know how to cope, get the addict help, or just deal with an addicted individual in general. It is for this reason that people begin to enable the addict. This enabling is one of the results from addicts playing the victim card, and swindling loved ones into the game. We may not think this is a bad thing, but it certainly is. It can lead our loved ones to create unhealthy coping mechanisms, not just for us, but for them too. This can cause loved ones such as spouses, children, friends, and parents to be deeply affected down the line. For this reason, addiction is not just an individual disease, but is being referred to more and more as a family disease. The reason it is referred to as this is because those unhealthy coping mechanisms affect us (the addict) them (the loved one), as well as all the other individuals in our sphere. Addiction affects everyone.

For this reason, we encourage you to consider family treatment. Since addiction is a family disease, it is important to treat it as such. This means the whole family gets treated through family therapy sessions and family treatment processes. Although this group therapy may be difficult, if the disease affects the whole family, then the whole family should get treated.

There are many benefits to receiving group family therapy. First, it is more effective for the addict. Since addiction has a high relapse rate, there needs to be a fix to this problem. One of the solutions is accountability. It is much more difficult to relapse when the whole family will know if you skipped a session, rather than you just being on your own. This extra wall of security is helpful when our willpower gives out.

Second, this form of therapy involves family education. Addiction is a very misunderstood topic. Your loved ones may hate your or resent you because they do not understand the complex topic of addiction. However, family therapy provides education, understanding, and empathy. Seeking family therapy helps to educate your loved ones on why you do the things you do, as well as the chemical imbalance in the brain. Rather than just having them see you struggle on your own, they can understand why these situations happen in the first place.

Finally, it opens the door to communication. Communication is the most important thing in order for families to come to a point of reconciliation. Open and honest communication makes it easier to tell your loved ones when you are feeling triggered, as well as have forgiveness when there is a relapse. Open and honest communication will lead to a closer bond, which addiction will not be able to defeat no matter how hard it tries. When considering family therapy, consider detox as well. It is impossible to beat addiction without detox, but that is why we are here–to help you through that difficult first step.

Be the Queen/King and Not a Pawn

Addiction and alcoholism are sneaky little buggers. They come from out of nowhere, tackle you to the ground, and then leave you hogtied and waiting for death. Now you can complain and admit defeat- or you can squirm, loosen the ropes of chemical dependency and walk away like nothing happened. Don’t let addiction and alcoholism win. If you or a loved one has been struggling with the victim role and could use detoxification or a little bit of help, please call 1-866-802-6848 or visit Our team of specialists is waiting by and more than thrilled to help rebuild a life full of positivity and sunshine.

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7 Ways to Get a Positive Perspective Change

Have you ever had life sneak up from behind you, grab you by the ankles, and just pull the feet right out from under you? Or have you ever made plans for something and just had the world come crashing down on you when it was least expected? Or have you ever just had one of those days where you meant to be your most Winnie the Pooh self but the best of Eeyore got to you as you kept losing your tail and struggling to manage life on life’s terms? “Yeah, me either”- said nobody ever. They say, “When it rains it pours.” This is a phrase here in meaning that negative things often arrive in flocks and that having a perspective change and moving forward is very difficult as drowning in the metaphorical tsunami of our life’s failures and accomplishments is quite difficult- or something like that. Well “they” say a lot of things.

Your storyline is all about how you decide to view things as the film continues to play out. Sure, when the clouds gather, things can start to seem pretty grim. At the same time, sometimes we make these clouds our own personal little sky and allow them to follow us about. The Charlie Brown Rain Cloud syndrome they call it. OK, only I call it that, but it should be a thing. As addicts and alcoholics, we allow even the smallest of things to rent space in our head for free. We obsess over things and get in moods that make it almost impossible to have a perspective change. This, however, will keep us sick in the head, not just as addicts but as human beings in general. We have the power to fly above the clouds. We want what we want and when we want it, but it’s on us as individuals to keep treading water and not go under because something didn’t necessarily go our way.

Wooden Nickels and Two Sided Coins

As the tides constantly shift and change, it’s imperative that we keep in mind there is always a different way to view things. For every coin tossed into the air, regardless of heads or tails, there is always room for perspective change. It can be difficult for the mind to mold into this shape of perception, as being open minded is tougher when things aren’t going our way like the spoiled children we tend to be. For one, thinking positively is almost like a way of life. Everything we do is a direct stimulus from our emotions and the way we handle things as they come along. It goes back to there being no right or wrong side of the bed when we arise from our slumber in the morning. It’s all in the frame of mind we decide to set ourselves in. Having such a perspective change can be as simple as just taking things more lightheartedly. Life is simply too short to not laugh at every opportunity we are provided. The tears are much more difficult to deal with than the abdominal tightening comicals occurring all around. Allowing ourselves to laugh and smile with life reminds us of the reason we live it to begin with.

As we continue to feed into this idea of thinking positively, it will gradually snowball into seeing & doing positively as it develops into our way of life. Things will stop becoming so heavy as we look for the brighter side of the road in all situations. Every situation has a beauty and growth behind it if we stop hindering ourselves from seeing the truth.

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The actuality of it is that by living this optimistic approach in life, it will help perspective changes with ourselves such as self-esteem and insecurities believe it or not. Things aren’t always as bad as we tend to make them out to be. People in general, but especially alcoholics, love to just exaggerate the hell out of any situation. We love to victimize and feel sorry for ourselves! Developing confidence is one of the key factors into thinking and acting into a positive perspective change that will help battle this gigantic pity party over life that we love orchestrating so frequently. If we happen to believe in ourselves and think we are worth it, then we will go out of our ways to seek the delight and happiness in life that can be found. We’ll stop being completely fearful of our failures in life through this. By increasing self-esteem and making such a perspective change, we truly begin to believe that we are worth the trouble. This, of course, has a butterfly effect on accepting life’s challenges and feeling that inner strength rooted deep down inside. As we topple over the fear and face life on headfirst, we start to see how hard we have always been on ourselves with such unwarranted doubts and apprehension.

It kind of all boils down to love once we reduce the solution down. Loving and taking time for self is how we really keep all this in motion. Putting in the time to relax and enjoy ourselves opens up these doors for introspection and self-awareness that we didn’t even realize were possible. It’s not until we love ourselves that we can love life and really appreciate the unknown as it’s delivered to our feet. We have all the capabilities and power in the world to create perspective change and make this life what we want it to be. We all control our own destiny despite external forces. It’s all a matter of just opening your eyes and looking in the right spots for that internal sunshine.

Hell is Where You Are and Heaven is Where You Make It

Positivity is not something that just manifests itself in the world we live in today. As addicts, it would seem that misfortune constantly chases us due to our alcoholic thinking. It’s on us to love ourselves, it’s on us to choose happiness, and it’s on us to get rid of the chemicals causing such negativity to blossom in our lives. If you or a loved one has been struggling with getting a firm grasp on your positivity and could use detoxification or a little bit of help, please call 1-866-802-6848 or visit Our team of specialists is waiting by and more than thrilled to help rebuild life full of sunshine and rainbows.

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You Can’t Help Someone Who is in Denial of Their Addiction

Do you remember being a youth and having that childlike awe at the idea of the tooth fairy or Santa Claus even? Living and giving meaning to the phrase “ignorance is bliss” almost. It was a wonderful feeling, but then the authenticities of the world struck their chords like they do for everybody and reality made sure it was heard. Time progressed, aging occurred, and adulthood took over. The quicksands of time began raining out the hourglass as we all struggled in one way or another to not get sucked under and to survive. As we began sinking, some of us turned to various chemicals and relied on them heavily to keep us from being swallowed whole. Some people would go on to find other ways to cope, but others would get lost. They would go on to trick themselves into believing they were self-sufficient in the matter, but really they were in denial of their addiction growing deeper.

In the process one calls life, most of us have developed a “seeing is believing” mentality. Kind of seeing things firsthand and having them prevalent to your life is a whole other ball game than hearing of something through the grapevine. This is due to the hardships that life delivers at our doorstep and the amount of times we get let down throughout life. Some would say it’s easier to maintain a cynical mindset and be surprised rather than to stay optimistic and have your hopes crushed repeatedly, as life so often does. This idea, multiplied with alcoholic thinking, starts us off with how seemingly counterproductive helping others in denial with their addiction is.

Denial- Not Just a River in Egypt

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines denial as a refusal to admit the truth or reality. Also, it’s an assertion that a specific allegation is false. That being said, addicts and alcoholics are usually in denial of their addiction because it’s rather hard to prove something to somebody who has their mind made up about there being no harm- no foul going on. Addicts and alcoholics are very stubborn, closed minded people. It’s just in their nature- usually from the habits and ways they’ve formed to get by over the years. Regardless, trying to convince an alcoholic they have a drinking problem is like trying to argue with a wall. There will be no budging of any sort until they can see clearly for themselves that there is a problem. Everybody has different perspectives in life and we addicts and alcoholics will typically forget this. We see the world through our own little private lenses and put blinders on as we emerge into complete obliviousness to the world spinning around us.

Most addicts and alcoholics will remain in denial of their addictions until they hit their rock bottom more or less. Sure, it doesn’t have to be “rock bottom” because everybody’s rock bottom is different. Once it gets bad enough, that person will know that something needs to be done. However, why change a good thing if there aren’t any problems? That’s my motto. It is also apparently the motto of most chemically dependent people in denial of their addiction. Go figure huh?

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The demons that addiction and alcoholism are for those inflicted are a doozy. Our grandiose style of thinking tells us that we can outsmart addiction. Most of us, when deep on a run, are in denial of their addiction because we justify all our actions to feed the demons. Alcoholic thinking craves substances and debauchery and we as human beings must deliver to the only thing that makes our life worth living. We even realize this sick and twisted mindset while living in the midst of it all, but the voice of reason is usually quickly bound and gagged as sinister thoughts take over.

Fear is the main culprit  when we boil down the residue and examine why so many friends of Bill are in denial of their addiction. Another unfortunate nature to this disease is that we get comfortable in this revolving door of misery that addiction is. We literally become comfortable with how uncomfortable we are in this world and hiss at the idea of getting help or “change” occurring. We fear the idea of detoxing off the plethora of chemicals built up in our system and the extra discomfort it will provide. We fear doing something proactive in our lives and accepting the fact that we deserve better than the miserable life our self-esteem and insecurities have convinced us we deserve. We fear the unknown and live in a world of anxiety as we remain complacent in the battle against dope sickness or the quest for crack rocks.

There is this old cliché of “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink.” This statement couldn’t be truer in this life we addicts and alcoholics trudge through. At the same time, to recognize that the horse might not have been aware of the water without a nudge in the right direction is something we must all take into account. No- you can’t really help somebody get clean who is in denial of their addiction, but you can still be that voice of reason when theirs has been diminished. Pointing out who somebody is, when they are blind to what’s looking back in the mirror, might just be what that person needs to hear. Sometimes if they hear there’s a problem innumerable times and from enough loved ones, something maybe just maybe might click and get the right gears turning.

Swimming Out the River and Recognizing the Issue at Hand

It’s one thing for a person to be in denial of their addiction and it’s another to fully accept there’s a problem at stake. Most of us who’ve made it to green grasses were in full denial at one point or another. It took having the right light shined at the right time and catching little glimmers of the truth that had been so hidden before. If you or a loved one has been struggling with getting a firm grasp on your denial and could use detoxification or a little bit of help, please call 1-866-802-6848 or visit Our teams of specialists are always on standby waiting to happily take your call.  There is a light waiting to be shined for you.