Nobody in their right mind stays awake at night praying and wishing they would become an alcoholic or a junkie the very next day. It doesn’t happen overnight just like that. Unfortunately, becoming a professional addict or alcoholic generally takes months or years of debauchery indulging and practice in ruining everything in your life and those that surround you. This is a career that is not to be taken lightly. Those of us who are familiar with this rotten path of chemical dependency know the frightening places this disease takes us. Addiction is a demon that may sleep for a little bit, but never ever departs from our sides. As we scuffle through life smelling the roses here and there, often times addiction pulls a “Houdini” and appears out of nowhere. Most of us never really see it coming. We consistently justify our actions and thought processes and explain to ourselves that our usage is normal. We compare and ignore everything as it happens right in front of our eyes. Then it all comes crashing down. We wake up one day and can’t help but wonder, what on earth went wrong. Our alcoholic tendencies are showing up full fledge and we haven’t the slightest clue as to what went astray- or so we tell ourselves. The battle gets ever more intensive, and we sink lower and lower into the powerlessness and unmanageability. It’s apparent that help is needed, but most have built our withdrawals into this gigantic monster and have made it so were scared to go to detox for some reason or another.
The Monsters in the Closet Now Live in our Heads
As age takes ahold of us, fear starts to grow tremendously throughout the course of life and prevents certain matters from progressing. Now, this doesn’t mean that everybody is destined to become Chicken Little or hypochondriacs as we wait for the world to end. This is just referring to our rational and irrational minds growing and more experience building on our lifetime resume. For some, this ever growing fear is what has built their alcoholism or addiction to such towering proportions. Fear of dealing with life on life’s terms and a nice hot spoon or alcoholic beverage quickly becomes a friendly solution. Yet, this solution doesn’t seem to be fixing anything in the blueprints for life but only making them worse as a matter of fact. After some trial and error and this is determined by the person in question, it is often too late and physical and mental dependency has taken a firm grasp folks. Obviously, it’s time to kick the chemicals and start fresh….but how? One of the first ideas that pops into mind is the:
Fear of Leaving That Crutch Behind
When our friends abandoned us and nobody wanted to be in our presence- the bottle was always there. The irrational fear of losing “your friend” alcohol sets in. It sounds a bit off kilter, but it’s a necessity. It’s become our bread and butter- the very lifeline that fills our veins. This torments us, but we learn to overcome it in better situations and those who really want to see the clean side of a day. If we can overcome these thoughts, then the excuses begin for most of us.
I Can’t Take A Leave From Work
One personal reason detoxification was intimidating was because of the career. We get in this mindset that we can’t afford to lose our job, or even “I don’t know how I’m going to tell my boss.” This fear is justifiable but still irrational. The reality of the matter with some chronic alcoholics and addicts is that if they don’t clean up sooner than later, they won’t be around to punch in and punch out their daily clocks anyway.
Responsibilities at Home
We forget in the midst of our addictive single-minded routines that addiction and alcoholism will kill us. Some of us don’t forget even- we just stop caring. Life or death- we’ll take whatever is tossed our way. Same goes for family matters. In the depths of addiction, we alcoholic thinkers tend to be pretty selfish as we put ourselves first in most matters. Once everything is brought to the table, we excuse ourselves as scared to go to detox “because the family needs me.” Well, were not really there mentally as much as we think we are. 9 times out of 10, the family wants their respective member back and unleashed from the deranged mentality they’ve been hypnotized in. Most family members will advocate for the healthy option and suggest going to detox so that the addict in question can be there for the family down the road before unpredictable circumstances occur.
What if People Find Out?
Along with the previous examples come embarrassment and the opinions of others. We realize that if we take this couple day to couple week hiatus, people will know were missing. We get so caught up on what all “the others” will think, but in hindsight, most of the people we surround ourselves with already know of the insanity being displayed. When were out ripping and running, we think we look so good and that were hiding our behaviors so well. Wrong! We’re usually so oblivious to our surroundings and there’s really no more hiding them anymore. The more embarrassing thing is trying to maintain a problem that is being denied as a problem. The judgment from fellow family members and peers is worth the risk when the other direction provides the risk of death. The Greek scale is tipping over on this one.
Fear of Change
Lastly, to sweeten the psychological pot of being scared to go to detox, we throw the fear of change in there. Change and the unknown can be one of the single most horrifying monsters out there and will stop even the strongest of men and women from accomplishing their feats of hope and courage. Getting clean from the booze and dope will require new hobbies, new friends, and a new lifestyle entirely. This gigantic change can rattle even the most grounded of people. Fortunately, as human beings, we are indeed creatures of adaptation and learn to survive by any means. That is one of the best parts of life. We are not destined to thought or one bottle- the world has an innumerable amount of options out there. Don’t let fear win as you settle for less with active alcoholism.
Who Looks Back in the Mirror?
There are plenty of things that are okay to be scared of, but unless something is done about it, you are destined to continue hiding from these frights. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim and live under the tyrant form of your alcoholism. Fight back against the overwhelming fears that prevent the bettering of you and your lifestyle. At the end of the day, sometimes a leap just has to be made because nothing changes if nothing changes. If you or a loved one is struggling with chemical dependency and are ready for help, please call 1-866-802-6848 or visit www.coastaldetox.com. We are ready to give you any suggestions possible and set you or your loved one on a path that we can all be proud of.