Everything we do usually has a beginning, middle, and an end. This is how we experience life- it’s not just for story hour. We all come into this world more or less the same way and start out from infancy as we travel through the years developing more and more as time goes by. This being said, at some point in time, everything was fresh to us. Even the things we know best and are most accustomed to today- they had a beginning. We make mistakes and hopefully learn from them or we don’t, and the world keeps spinning. Going into these mistakes, some of us find a taste for narcotics and alcohol. Maybe not a mistake at first, but once we fully immerse ourselves into our addiction and alcoholism- this is when the problems “begin”. See what I did there? Moving forward. So we get caught up in our addictive tendencies and decide to get clean, maybe try this Alcoholics Anonymous thing out for a little bit and see what happens. This is where the transformations start taking place. This is where we start going over suggestions for newcomers specifically.
It can be intimidating walking into a room full or recovering drug addicts and alcoholics when you’re the new kid on the block. We’ve all been there before in some manner, being the new one that is. Doesn’t matter whether it’s a new career, academic education, or a meeting- you treat them all the same and dive right in. Start introducing yourself to new people and connecting. This is one of the first major pieces to the puzzle of addiction. We all need help and require friendship of some sort. It’s simply human nature to want to connect and relate to something or somebody. To feel understood is something most individuals crave at the end of their day. The good news for newcomers is to not be discouraged. We addicts and alcoholics are all unique in our own ways, but we are not special. We have all experienced much of the same fears and struggles as the next. Sure you could compare the tales of different people in recovery, but the driving point is that we are not alone and we are all struggling with the disease of addiction in the rooms. We all have a common enemy, and for us, it’s all about synergy you know?
First and foremost, one of the most important things recommended to anyone is to find a sponsor, in your program of choice, and start working the twelve steps. These steps were created specifically for people in sobriety to take a step back and catalog all their doings- the good, the bad, and the ugly. They help individuals take a well thought out look at themselves and jump right into a little introspection. This is crucial for anybody in recovery so that we can commence in changing our ways. After all, it was our sick thinking and destructive ways that landed us a chair in the rooms of alcoholics anonymous anyway. Clearly, our best ideas weren’t taking us much anywhere, but that’s okay because there is a solution.
This leads us right to my next point. Another large suggestion for newcomers is to perk your ears up and take any advice that’s thrown your way. The old cliché saying goes, “take the cotton out your ears and stick it in your mouth”. No, no, there isn’t any cotton actually. The idea being pushed forward right here is to start practicing humility and working on arrogance essentially. Many of us walk into the rooms and don’t realize how much we are creatures of habit. After living so many odd years, we become familiarized to our routines. We know what we like and when we like it. Well, in the world of recovery, sometimes it’s about realizing and then separating our wants from our needs. If somebody is delivering suggestions for newcomers, it’s wise to hear what they may have to say. It’s amazing how much more a person can learn when their mouth is shut.
Continuing to move forward, now it’s time to discuss routine and spontaneity. Who doesn’t love impulsivity? It’s my belief that randomness can be exciting for some and maybe make others timid. Yet, at the same time, I believe that we do crave change often. Being the adaptive animals that we are, we look for change alterations and things that are out of the ordinary. It’s thrilling to see something you don’t get to see every day, there’s no denying that. So as addicts and alcoholics, we go overboard with this concept and rashly make decisions without thinking them completely through. This is something that tends to get most of us into a tad bit of trouble. Eh, it happens right? Wrong. We can prevent it from happening by following the recommendations provided above, as well as sticking to healthy habits and behaviorisms. Getting a routine down that can be more or less expected every day is a winning choice move. Now, I’m not saying at all to be a robot and monotonously do the same exact thing day in and day out. Throw a little pizzazz in there, but have a general blueprint mapped out of your proceeding day. Having too much time to ourselves can be detrimental to our recovery. How’s the saying go again, “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop”? This can be the case for anybody and not just us in recovery. It’s in our nature to be inquisitive, we just need to keep ourselves in check the best we can and follow the suggested game plan.
Struggling Taking the Suggestions?
Sometimes it’s difficult to step away and get to a point where we can listen advertently to others. Much of the time when in active addiction and alcoholism, we feel so clouded and can have a hard time taking advice from those trying to help. Sometimes there is a beginning before the beginning and professional help is required. If you or a loved one is struggling with chemical dependency and are ready for help, please call 1-866-802-6848 or visit www.firststepsrecovery.com. We are ready to give you any suggestions possible and set you or your loved one on a path that we can all be proud of.