5 Signs Fear is Running Your Life and How to Overcome It

It’s easy to see that we exist in a world where change is instinctual and every individual out there is unique in their own methods. It can be hard to see eye to eye with everyone when we are all genetically so adapt and dissimilar. Can we relate to this person? Have they been alike struggles? Do they see and hear with the same perception I do?

A favorite of mine is to point out that every human being that is currently living or has ever lived is made up of a different genetic composition than the last. That being said, we all love and hate in different capacities. We like and dislike specific things that our neighbor may not. We process it all differently. Along with this processing, all people have varying levels of being frightened. Sometimes fear is the appropriate response, but too often fear is stacked on other fears and we build this house or irrationality to hide inside of.

Much of the time, human beings like to assume as they let their imaginations take full throttle. We hear and see what we want to hear and see. We then build off the subjective fear and conjure great imaginaries inside. The thoughts then take over and swallow us whole. Once our pipe dreams and reality are indistinguishable, we have concocted a perfect set of apprehension to hold us back from life. However, what if it didn’t have to be that way?

Running from Yourself

Many of us forget fear is self-manifested in most scenarios. In the epic battle between nature vs. nurture, in a lot of aspects, we seem to be afraid of what life has to offer. We are not born with this incessant instinct to just be terrified of everything.  As the late great John F. Kennedy said, “We have nothing to fear but fear itself”. You see it is when we allow these scared premonitions to take control- we are opening ourselves up to more possibilities of fright.

When we allow fear in, before we know it all these troubles have overcome our complete psyche and we are living in the anxiety of our every next step. However, there are tell-tale signs to keep an eye out for when becoming engulfed in fear. Some of them are recognizable in us and others like:

  • The individual is always on an emotional roller coaster
  • The person is always unsure of their next step
  • They are unable to stay sober
  • The person allows trivial matters to upset them easily
  • The individual is always living in secrecy

Sometimes a person may be living sheltered in a world of fear and it may be difficult to see it. Unfortunately, help sometimes cannot be provided to somebody when that somebody isn’t aware they need it.

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Fear and Funhouse Mirrors

Often times- especially for addicts and alcoholics, fear is manufactured from the thoughts of anxiety and thinking too much about our future. We live in such a fast-paced world with so many distractions that it is difficult to keep ourselves present in the now. We are always reminiscing about the past or tripping over our futures that we struggle to maintain consciousness with everything that is today. It’s easy to remain stuck in uncomfortable thoughts and to play them over and over in our heads. We just take the discomforting VHS tape of memories and rewind and play- rewind and play. Our magic 8 ball for what’s to come doesn’t do us much justice either.

Not staying in the present can have a dramatic effect on our awareness. When we allow ourselves to become distracted from the inevitable wandering of our minds, we begin to tune out our surroundings. Our focus then placates on unimportant matters and we allow hypothetical and irrational fear to set in. Introspection quickly goes down the drain when we start practicing this worrisome oblivion. When we live in fear, we allow our minds to be slaves to something just like substance abuse. Using tools such as prayer and meditation are imperative to making it through the adventures of our imagination.

Rational or Irrational?

Many of us used drugs and alcohol because we wanted to feel comfortably numb when dealing with the strife life provides. Having the constant impending fear of doom can get heavy after a bit of time. Using drugs to forget about life’s matters because it’s natural as we allow fears to trickle in and take over. Eventually for many, just like alcoholic thinking itself, fear begins to make things powerless and unmanageable.

Some build the fright up on the inside and convince themselves that they will fail if they try to get clean or do anything for that matter. They will fail at getting high and they will fail if they try this sobriety thing. Sometimes it’s a matter of taking that step over the thin line of comfort and growth.

It’s amazing to see what we fear before and after sobriety because the difference is yin and yang. When we take a look at most of the things that we allow ourselves to panic over, we find that when broken down, that most of our fears are irrational. Sure some of them sit comfortably on a pile of “what ifs”, but most of our fears originate from things we make up in our heads. Chances are if it’s not something that is currently affecting us- then it won’t. Staying in the present and acknowledging our reality from our pipe dreams is one of the best ways we can step closer to not letting that fear overcome us.

Don’t Let the Excuses Stop Your Life

When we fear it is because it’s something we seek in our lives. Don’t allow the fear of sobriety or trying to become sober prevent you from living the life you truly desire. Addiction and alcoholism add up and will only continue to tower the fear and torment over your head. If you or a loved one is struggling with chemical dependency and are ready for help, please call 1-888-481-1993 or visit www.coastaldetox.com. We are ready to give you any suggestions possible and set you or your loved one on a path that we can all be proud of.

Real Client Testimonials

  • Before coming to coastal I was hopeless, helpless, and my family wanted nothing to do with me. It wasn’t the first detox I’d ever been to, but it was the only one who showed me so much love and compassion. They gave me hope. It’s hard to put into words the amount of gratitude I have for this facility. The employees were my family when I had none. The staff went out of their way to make sure not only were my physical needs taken care of, but my emotional needs as well. From the first phone call prior to admission, to helping me set up continuing care, they never missed a beat. Even going as far as to help me with my legal issues via Zoom court. This isn’t just a detox, they are the family I never had. All of the techs, especially Karen, are phenomenal. They will take the time to listen to you, laugh, and cry(if needed) with you. If you are reading this and you or your loved one is suffering like I was, go to Coastal Detox. The level of care is more than I could ever put into a review. It wasn’t the first detox I’d been to, but it has been my last; I owe them everything I have today, including my life.

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    Travis B.
    12/07/2020
  • Had a really good experience at Coastal. The staff really went above and beyond in helping me get in and gave me the respect l, space and care I needed after I first got there. As I started to fell better they encouraged me to take part in groups which helped get me out of my head and bring positivity and health to my thinking. They had a great massage therapist, who came daily and it was evident the nursing staff genuinely cared. Got to know some of the staff as well and I’m grateful for the cooks Joe and Chris. Those guys literally made us sirloins and pork chops for dinner. Also I gotta thank Chris and Chris for helping me get in and setting me up with a transition plan. Real grateful for that help, I’m not sure if it’s management intention to hire guys named Chris but they got a good thing going there. Overall, I’m clean and sober today and walking it out. Coastal gave me a base that set me up for the success that I’m walking in today

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    Brandon B.
    1/16/2020
  • My family is very thankful for Coastal Detox. They have went above and beyond for my son a few times. Unfortunately he has needed their help more than once and they have ever turned their back on him, even when he was at his worst. Jeannie and Chris have been amazing and kept me informed through the entire process. They truly care about the addict and want to help them especially when it would be easy to give up on them. I had many detox facilities be rude and uncaring to me when I was searching for help for my son, but Coastal never did that to us. I don't know the names of all the team members that have helped my son but I know their are many and y'all are angels!! One day we will be able to pay it forward and help someone as you have helped us. Thank you for all you do!!

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    1/01/2020
  • Can not say enough nice things about Coastal Detox & staff. Family member was there, told me five stars for the facility & all whom she interacted with. Said the facilities, ambience..., cleanliness, grounds, food, (think their chef is five stars), were all top shelf. All I interacted with personally & on the phone were patient, professional, responsive & caring. Kudos to so many: Jeannie Jones, Clinical Director whom I spent the most face to face time with: great oversight, patience & follow thru. Raquel Barker, Therapist was so understanding & on spot with her assessments/care. Kris Garrigus Admissions Director, another Coastal professional whom I cannot say enough nice things about, always so patient & responsive to my probably too frequent inquires. Not to be forgotten is Judy Tucker, Director of Operations she too so patiently "put up with me"
    I highly recommend Coastal Detox

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    Susan C.
    11/13/2019
  • Can not say enough nice things about Coastal Detox & staff. Family member was there, told me five stars for the facility & all whom she interacted with. Said the facilities, ambience..., cleanliness, grounds, food, (think their chef is five stars), were all top shelf. All I interacted with personally & on the phone were patient, professional, responsive & caring. Kudos to so many: Jeannie Jones, Clinical Director whom I spent the most face to face time with: great oversight, patience & follow thru. Raquel Barker, Therapist was so understanding & on spot with her assessments/care. Kris Garrigus Admissions Director, another Coastal professional whom I cannot say enough nice things about, always so patient & responsive to my probably too frequent inquires. Not to be forgotten is Judy Tucker, Director of Operations she too so patiently "put up with me"
    I highly recommend Coastal Detox

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    11/06/2019

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