It’s easy to see that we exist in a world where change is instinctual and every individual out there is unique in their own methods. It can be hard to see eye to eye with everyone when we are all genetically so adapt and dissimilar. Can we relate to this person? Have they been alike struggles? Do they see and hear with the same perception I do?
A favorite of mine is to point out that every human being that is currently living or has ever lived is made up of a different genetic composition than the last. That being said, we all love and hate in different capacities. We like and dislike specific things that our neighbor may not. We process it all differently. Along with this processing, all people have varying levels of being frightened. Sometimes fear is the appropriate response, but too often fear is stacked on other fears and we build this house or irrationality to hide inside of.
Much of the time, human beings like to assume as they let their imaginations take full throttle. We hear and see what we want to hear and see. We then build off the subjective fear and conjure great imaginaries inside. The thoughts then take over and swallow us whole. Once our pipe dreams and reality are indistinguishable, we have concocted a perfect set of apprehension to hold us back from life. However, what if it didn’t have to be that way?
Running from Yourself
Many of us forget fear is self-manifested in most scenarios. In the epic battle between nature vs. nurture, in a lot of aspects, we seem to be afraid of what life has to offer. We are not born with this incessant instinct to just be terrified of everything. As the late great John F. Kennedy said, “We have nothing to fear but fear itself”. You see it is when we allow these scared premonitions to take control- we are opening ourselves up to more possibilities of fright.
When we allow fear in, before we know it all these troubles have overcome our complete psyche and we are living in the anxiety of our every next step. However, there are tell-tale signs to keep an eye out for when becoming engulfed in fear. Some of them are recognizable in us and others like:
- The individual is always on an emotional roller coaster
- The person is always unsure of their next step
- They are unable to stay sober
- The person allows trivial matters to upset them easily
- The individual is always living in secrecy
Sometimes a person may be living sheltered in a world of fear and it may be difficult to see it. Unfortunately, help sometimes cannot be provided to somebody when that somebody isn’t aware they need it.
Fear and Funhouse Mirrors
Often times- especially for addicts and alcoholics, fear is manufactured from the thoughts of anxiety and thinking too much about our future. We live in such a fast-paced world with so many distractions that it is difficult to keep ourselves present in the now. We are always reminiscing about the past or tripping over our futures that we struggle to maintain consciousness with everything that is today. It’s easy to remain stuck in uncomfortable thoughts and to play them over and over in our heads. We just take the discomforting VHS tape of memories and rewind and play- rewind and play. Our magic 8 ball for what’s to come doesn’t do us much justice either.
Not staying in the present can have a dramatic effect on our awareness. When we allow ourselves to become distracted from the inevitable wandering of our minds, we begin to tune out our surroundings. Our focus then placates on unimportant matters and we allow hypothetical and irrational fear to set in. Introspection quickly goes down the drain when we start practicing this worrisome oblivion. When we live in fear, we allow our minds to be slaves to something just like substance abuse. Using tools such as prayer and meditation are imperative to making it through the adventures of our imagination.
Rational or Irrational?
Many of us used drugs and alcohol because we wanted to feel comfortably numb when dealing with the strife life provides. Having the constant impending fear of doom can get heavy after a bit of time. Using drugs to forget about life’s matters because it’s natural as we allow fears to trickle in and take over. Eventually for many, just like alcoholic thinking itself, fear begins to make things powerless and unmanageable.
Some build the fright up on the inside and convince themselves that they will fail if they try to get clean or do anything for that matter. They will fail at getting high and they will fail if they try this sobriety thing. Sometimes it’s a matter of taking that step over the thin line of comfort and growth.
It’s amazing to see what we fear before and after sobriety because the difference is yin and yang. When we take a look at most of the things that we allow ourselves to panic over, we find that when broken down, that most of our fears are irrational. Sure some of them sit comfortably on a pile of “what ifs”, but most of our fears originate from things we make up in our heads. Chances are if it’s not something that is currently affecting us- then it won’t. Staying in the present and acknowledging our reality from our pipe dreams is one of the best ways we can step closer to not letting that fear overcome us.
Don’t Let the Excuses Stop Your Life
When we fear it is because it’s something we seek in our lives. Don’t allow the fear of sobriety or trying to become sober prevent you from living the life you truly desire. Addiction and alcoholism add up and will only continue to tower the fear and torment over your head. If you or a loved one is struggling with chemical dependency and are ready for help, please call 1-888-481-1993 or visit www.coastaldetox.com. We are ready to give you any suggestions possible and set you or your loved one on a path that we can all be proud of.